Love, and all the drama about it

Love. It's meant to be simple. It's really meant to be synonymous with the plain and simple feeling called happiness. Take an example of your parent's love for you, and yours in return to them. Or your love for your passion that keeps your heart ignited, and your goals in focus. Ain't that simple? But what about that girl whom you met a couple of days ago, and couldn't get her out of your head even till now. Whose smiling face has taken all over your mind. The thought of seeing whom is making you all impatient, and yet the anticipation of going up to her and getting into a conversation is giving you chills down the spine, isn't it love?

Maybe it's too soon to call it love. But what is that they say "love at first sight!"? Maybe it's that. Or maybe it's all illogical. Maybe it's mere infatuation, or attraction or plain affection. Anything else than "love" that the so profound English language has to offer. What I say, yes. It is too soon to call it love.

Feeling butterflies in your tummy when you see her, or getting goosebumps on a simple touch isn't love. Love is not mere excitement. It's much deeper. Much more unconditional. Much more profound than superficial. It's not the feeling of "liking" you develop for someone. Rather, it's the liking you develop for yourself when you're with that someone.

We are not who we think we are. Neither are we what others think we are. We are rather what we think others think we are. That is, we tend to be someone else's perception of us, rather than being our true selves. But being mature is all about getting comfortable in our own skin. Being grown up is all about discovering oneself through the journey of life. And when you find that one person with whom you feel you're your true self, that's when you've found that "special" someone in your life.

And you really don't need to get in a relationship until you've found that someone. Or rather, you may date people you find yourself attracted to, but you should be thoroughly sure about your feelings before calling it "Love". For one, it's too pure and too special a feeling to be liberally indulged in, and felt for every second person you find attractive. Moreover, it spares the other person a heartbreak over your misjudgment of your own feelings.

You must spend quality time with that person. Get to know them inside out. Each day, share your thoughts and feelings you've had for that day over stuff that matters to you. Do listen patiently and attentively to stuff that matters to them. Connect, or at least try to connect at an emotional - intellectual level.

See for yourself, whether you are really growing fond of that person. Whether you truly care about their well being without any intentions of hooking up with them. Whether or not you feel your self with them. Whether or not, hearing from them is the time of the day that you look forward to the whole day.

And even still, there is no one who can tell you whether or not it's love. It's something you just feel. It's love when you can, for sure, feel you can spend the rest of your life with her. Commit yourself to her and stay loyal. Have faith in your so special and so arduously established relationship. For in hard times, it's this faith that keeps the relationship from falling.

And it's not that you would regret that decision later on. For everyone does have second thoughts as to what if you fall for someone else later on? Being a guy has its own repercussions. The curse of getting attracted to any pretty face that crosses your path. But then being a guy, do have the spine to stay true to your commitment. 'cause in the end, it's she who matters.

You might indulge yourself in a couple of flings, exciting endeavors with ones you feel a sort of instant attraction, but it will all get over soon. And all you'd wish for would be to return back. But in this whole process, such words would be said, things done and damage inflicted, that return might become impossible. Leaving you both with nothing but loneliness and agony.

So, go out, find yourself a pretty and a cute face, explore their heart and thoughts, discover your feelings for them and theirs for yourselves while creating beautiful memories together, and fall in love with them, yourselves and life. And then, most importantly, stay committed.